I WANT TO USE CONDOMS
Don’t feel embarrassed about talking about condoms…feel PROUD! Condoms show you care about both yourself and your partner enough to protect each other. It’s not about trust, it’s about respect.
Don’t wait until the “heat of the moment” to bring condoms up. Talk about it before you’re in a situation when you might need one.
Be direct about your feelings. Remember there is no reason to be embarrassed!
Be firm: no condom, no sex.
Don’t be afraid about rejection. If someone doesn’t care enough about you to respect your wishes and use a condom, then they aren’t worth your time.
Be positive! When you use a condom you have less to worry about.
Ana2010 posted on 04.19.09 at 02:00AM
THIS IS TRUE NOBODY WANTS TO GET INFECTED WE SHOULD ALL JUST HAVE SAFE SEX!!!:)
June16 posted on 06.12.09 at 05:50PM
me and my boyfriend have talked about having sex..but he doesnt want to use a condom..and when we do decide to do it i want him to be happy about it..its just that im scared to get pregnant knowing that this is my first time having sex..what do i do???
MxxLxx posted on 06.13.09 at 04:15PM
Even when my ex-boyfirend said he knew when to"pull out"
i didnt take a chance.. i honestly tried it once but that lead me
to a big scare that no one should go through ... and after that we
only had sex once and he broke up with me the same day.. now
i have a new bf and we have these talks often but havent had sex..
diamondayana711 posted on 06.14.09 at 02:13PM
if you cant be open enough to talk about condoms with the person, in my opinion you're not ready to engage in that kind of behavior with him/her. thats a level that should be taken seriously, as so the thought of having kids.
noasha posted on 06.15.09 at 03:46PM
i think people should not have sex befor your married.that way you do have to be sorry about getting pregnant
L0KITA_13 posted on 06.18.09 at 09:39PM
OK WELL ME N MY BOYFRIEND HAVE HAD SEX B4;;WE HAVE DONE IT WITH CONDOMS BUT DA PAST COUPLE OF TIMES WE HAVEN'T N I HAVEN'T GOTTEN PREGNAT BUT I'M STILL NOT READY 2 HAVE A KID SO I'M NOT SURE...HE DOESN'T WANT TO USE ONE ANYMORE BUT IDK!!! I NEED HELP;;WE HAVEN'T DONE IT IN LIKE A WHILE BUT STILL...
msmissypooh posted on 06.19.09 at 10:29AM
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IS HAVING S3X FOR FR33 NOBODY WANT TO CATCH
ANY THING I KNO I DONT
ganise posted on 06.24.09 at 02:35PM
everyone should have safe sex
baby_lover14 posted on 06.26.09 at 01:52AM
my partner doesnt like wearing condoms either and i really wished my first time would have been safe but it wasnt and now i dont know what to do i hope am not pregante because i wouldnt know how to tell my parents i am barely fourteen what should i do???
Stefy_13 posted on 07.02.09 at 06:32PM
Me And My Boyfriend Used To Do It Without Condoms All The Time. UNTIL I Got Pregnant? I Had A Abortion Doe I Say Condoms Are A Big Yes! Everybody Should Use Them And To The Girl's Out Thier Who Boyfriend's Say "Let's Do It W/ A Condom" DONT DO IT! No Condom No Sexx!!
hottienicole622 posted on 07.02.09 at 08:39PM
hello, im 15 and really want to have sex. but i dnt no how to find the right guy, i no im ready and i do take birth control;;also i dnt no wat kind of condom i should use...can yuh plez message me and give me some tips. thank yuh.
Haheehaa posted on 07.02.09 at 09:11PM
LaurenAshlizzay posted on 07.05.09 at 09:29PM
Because I have gotten pregnant at such a young age....I do advise all young couples with bright futures ahead of them to plractice safe sex!
Ashley2010RHS posted on 07.05.09 at 11:27PM
me and my 'sex' partner dont use condoms but hes the only on ive been with and i trust him is that bad??
RussianWife posted on 07.07.09 at 05:17PM
My husband and I used condoms when we first got married and never really had a problem. I was 22 when I got married and my husband 23, we were each others first partners and decided that we wanted to wait for kids but we didn't want to use the pill.
Using condoms was the best decisions we made as a couple,and we don't regret it. When we were ready for kids, we got pregnant right away with no side affects to the pill.
I am almost 23 and have been married for a year and after the Birth of our daughter we will go back to using condoms...Besides condoms are much cleaner then having to "Clean up" after sex.
BSoms posted on 07.08.09 at 08:42PM
With the girl who said her bf wants to have sex without a condom, just say no. im serious cuz he should care about you being happy too and about you being safe. Talk to him more about it. If he gets mad at you or still refuses, he is definitly not the guy for you. Good luck!
amaanddaaaa posted on 07.09.09 at 08:24PM
My boyfriend and i have had sex before and we've used a condom.....but one time we were tempted to do it again and we didnt have a condom this time but, we did it anyway and i wasnt thinking at all and i dont understand pre-ejeculatory fluid.
t0ky0_chick posted on 07.10.09 at 12:32AM
Well me and my boyfriend talk about sex all the time. Im happy cuz hes all in to using the condom, we both said that we really dont want me to get pregnet or any thing and that we dont want to get a std not saying that each other has one, BUT BETTER SAFE THAT SORRY! But im still a virgin and hes not... and Im still not sure if i want to have sex even if he says hes goin to use a condom
jerilynX3 posted on 07.11.09 at 12:04PM
me & my boyfriend are the same way, we don't want to use a condom. well he doesn't, how could i convince him to wear one.
MyLife_349 posted on 07.14.09 at 07:55PM
Condoms are oh so helful, im only 13 years old nd i've already had sex with my boyfriend of four months. its oh so helpful although condoms dont COMPLETELY prevent u from getting pregnant it takes away the fear of it away..
XxSillyItalianxX posted on 07.15.09 at 10:00AM
You should never have sex with someone you dont know. Also someone you dont trust.
lynzzzzx33 posted on 07.17.09 at 09:40PM
I'm a thirteen year old girl. I'm now a lesbian.
I don't like guy, or sex. It's not that great. A lot of people think it is, I don't.
I had sex with this guy twice, and it was my idea. I regret it, more than anything.
We used a condom, both times. Really, I can't explain how happy I am we did. If I'd have gotten pregnant, I don't know what I'd have done. He hurt me one too many times, which is why I'm now a lesbian. I was bi before that, so it wasn't much of a change.
Bottom line, the guy was a jerk. People change after sex, even if they don't after the first time.
Be careful.
me8biggerthanu posted on 07.20.09 at 10:00AM
Also...never try the "pull out" method. It wont last, (take it from a guy) eventually we wont pull out like we shoud
chuliz posted on 07.21.09 at 08:36AM
My partner and I are always being safe and using condoms and we really think that there is nothing wrong with them but at the same time we want to do it without one but we will just wait til I get birth control.
Kahrin posted on 07.21.09 at 12:38PM
This is very true, condoms are a very big part of sexual activity. It should not be compromised and should be spoken about way before sex. If you all were ever to get in the moment and not have a condom, Do Not have Sex, instead maybe try something else sexual that will make you all both happy. Your life is not worth making any mistakes.
** P.S. always make sure the condoms fit, because if not, it couls possibly break, and be absolutely useless. Trust, this is what happened the first time i had sex, but I'm okay, nothing happened. Thank goodness. My boyfriend and I always use correct now.
Key: theyfit.com [personally fited condoms] Its a joy!!
charliesgurl posted on 07.22.09 at 04:38AM
WELL SEX IS FUN...PEOPLE ENJOY DOING IT BY USING CONDOMS HAHAH...WELL ME N BOYFRIEND KEEPS TALKING ABOUT SEX AND ALL N LIKE WE DECIDED TO DO IT BY USING CONDOMS...BUT I DONT WANNA GET PREGNENT ONLY LIKE AFTER WE MArry .. WELL AFTER ALL ITS GONNA BE MY 1ST TIME!!
maxwhatup posted on 07.23.09 at 10:41PM
we should have save sex u dont want std do i think so so have sex but do it right
digy posted on 07.29.09 at 08:34PM
ive really been thinkin bout it cuz my boyfrnd wants to have sex bt dont want to use a condom wat do i do i luv him but idk
Mauer_Lover0076 posted on 07.30.09 at 06:14PM
Hello! I am 19 years old, and I am completley in love. Me and my boyfriend have sex pretty much everyday, we use condoms and I am on the pill. I still get worried that cum is going to like pop out of the condom and into me and I am going to get pregnant. I don't want kids right now. Is there any way this could happen? We use a condom everytime, I take my pills everyday (never missed one) and the condoms we use fit him well. I just want to know if there is anyway I could get pregnant.
truckluver posted on 08.03.09 at 12:11PM
i love my boyfriend and he dnt like to use condoms cuz he says it feels better without. i mean he would use them but i think my birth control pills will protect me so i dnt make him wear one. should i still make him? cuz if i got pregnant i could never tell my parents
brittany_raven13 posted on 08.03.09 at 10:28PM
this is for June16 um if your boyfriend doesnt want to use a condom dont have sex with him ! dont even take the risk ! i tell my boyfriend NO CONDOM, NO SEX ! ! bc i dont want to get pregnant and if he loved you he would respect your discision.
franny213 posted on 08.04.09 at 01:05PM
okay so im 14 and there is this guy that i really really like.. hes 17 and he goes to a different school than me.. he says a relationship wouldnt work because of the school situation and yeah ive accepted that.. but he still wants to do stuff with me..adn i think i might want to have sex with him.. i need advice!!! please help!
dntbmom2soon posted on 08.06.09 at 10:50AM
PLEASE dont think the pull out method works! IT DOESNT! My daughter got pregnant after one time using this method! She will now be a mother before she was really ready. DO NOT THINK THIS WORKS IT DOES NOT WORK
dntbmom2soon posted on 08.06.09 at 10:52AM
Franny-Dont have sex with him then if he doesnt want a relationship why go there? He is just trying to use you for sex dont let him do that.
chelseyboolovesyou08 posted on 08.23.09 at 10:51AM
me and my boyfriend sometimes use condoms. he good as pulling out but i worry some times i want him to use a condom all the time but i sacred he will get mad
shavon1234 posted on 08.25.09 at 03:29PM
i have been having unsafe sex with my boyfriend for 5 years now ( we practice the with draw method), i know that this is one of the worst but we both hate condoms cause am alergic to the materials, and the pills just keep giving me blood clots in my lungs. everytime we have sex we try to be careful cause we dont want to have kids right now. i just want to know if anyone has any insight? thnx
SummerLiveLaughLove posted on 08.31.09 at 08:22AM
can you still get pregnate or stds if you use a condom?
twoheartsmakeone posted on 09.18.09 at 09:47PM
First to the teeny boppers. You are 13 or near there. Sweethearts you are babies thinking about making babies. Think about it if you had kids what would your reaction be. It may look like fun but there are huge consequences. If you really want to "explore" there are other ways. You've taken the first step of speaking up and asking for help. Be as open with your potential partner. Second oral can be an option for both...BUT STDS CAN STILL BE SPREAD!!!! It does not have to slide in to pass it along. If you do become active trust, honesty, and protection are a must. If he says he won't love you or it doesn't feel good tell him he has a hand! "Love" at that age is fleeting. You have the rest of your lifes to make mistakes... please don't start now.
twoheartsmakeone posted on 09.18.09 at 09:54PM
As for the pull out method... It is FAR from fail proof. Guys don't always do as they say they will! Go figure! If you are in a relationship where you have both been tested the pill is an option. But talk to each other before hand. If you can't talk about wanting to be protected don't have sex. And girls carry your own, who knows how long that thing has been in his wallet.
twoheartsmakeone posted on 09.18.09 at 09:58PM
I know it can be hard to speak up and theres the worry you'll saythe wrong thing and lose that special someone... but if they can't respect your decision then do they respect you? Have faith in yourself and the strengh will follow.
vannahboo14 posted on 10.21.09 at 10:26PM
I'm 14 yrs.old and i just had sex this year in 2009.I had ended up doing some stuff that got me in a worlds mess of curiousity.my boyfriend and i had just broke up to and i had got a little out of hand and had sex with his cousin,but my boyfriend and i had been on and off for 6 yrs and has told plenty of times,i dont think your ready.and he walked me through after everything that happend,but when me and his cousin had sex i didnt know he didnt were a condom,but i got a pregnancy test and it came negative but....he forgave me
katertots2009 posted on 10.27.09 at 10:56AM
im 13. i have never had sex, in my life. me and my boyfriend have been wanting to have sex. but he says he doesnt want to use a condom. i do not want to end up pregnant. some people say dump him, but i really love him, and i dont wanna do that over one stinking condom. what do i do . i want to have sex, but i dont wanna do it unprotected.
katertots2009 posted on 10.27.09 at 10:57AM
im 13. i have never had sex, in my life. me and my boyfriend have been wanting to have sex. but he says he doesnt want to use a condom. i do not want to end up pregnant. some people say dump him, but i really love him, and i dont wanna do that over one stinking condom. what do i do . i want to have sex, but i dont wanna do it unprotected.
Bentley Rose posted on 12.18.09 at 05:04AM
My Boyfriend (and now the father of my child) had complained about condoms during the beginning of the time we were together sexuxally. He siad that sex was good to begin with, but the condom made it not feel as good or something along those lines. I was on birth control and so I thoguht we were okay. However, I spent a week more or less at his appartment and I realized that I had gotten off track with my birth control. I wound up ovulating and conceiving a child. The thing is that had we been using condoms, like I should have required (I should have insisted he look for a brand taht worked better for him than what we used to begin with) I wouldn't need to be growing up the way I am now. I have to leave college and get a full time job. I know that it was both of our "faults" that I got pregnant. (He didn't want to use condoms and I didn't say anything really about it.) However, I am a very lucky young woman in the fact that my partner is there for me 100%. i am one of the lucky ones, beucause I know of women who's baby's fathers did not stay. We are getting an appartment and all, but I know that things don't always work out as planned.When it comes down to it, it is BOTH of your responsibilities to use protection. You CANNOT blame it on your partner saying "he didn't like condoms." There are always other methods. You and your partner owe it to each other and yourselves to find a mehtod of birth control that works for you guys. I do not regret my child, not ever, but I do wish that I had waited to get pregnant.
Hope that helps a bit
*BENTLEY*ROSE*
hearts_and_all posted on 12.20.09 at 04:43PM
to all those little 13 and 14 years olds,your all dumb,im 17 years old and i havent even thought about having sex,and i've been with my boyfriend for 6 years.the reason i havent thought about it is because i want to be in love,not 'in love'.you guys are only in what,middle school?maybe high school?i think that you should all quit being dummies and just wait like anyother smart girls.and if you still deside to have sex,be smart and use a condom,no ifs ands or buts about it.no condom no sex
Cassablanckababy posted on 01.03.10 at 10:17PM
ok so fist of all 2 all the ppl who think 13 14 15 and 16 year olds r 2 young 4 sex FUCK YALLL!!!! im 15 and i have not have sex but i want to i am very mature for my age and when your ready your ready no need 2 fuckin explain but ALWAYS,,, ALWAYS use both comdoms and birth controland have sex with who you want to have sex with ITS YOUR SEX LIFE!!! nobody esles ok but al ways be safe and please have sex as soon as you get ready ok holla!!!
sweetgirl190 posted on 01.28.10 at 08:29AM
*to june16* My boyfriend and I are the same way.....It is very important for you to be happy to!! Stay with the smart choice and use a condom! the guy can say he "knows when to pull out" but that is not always the case. Just let him know how you feel about it, and why you want to use a comdom. that is what i did. you can even use a condom and have your bf pull out, just to be extra safe. But your happnies is more important!! you dont want to be a mama, yet! best of luck!!
MsBroken94 posted on 02.04.10 at 11:01AM
ok, so im 15 and my boyfriend is 18, we have been together for over a year and a half, we have had sex quite a bit, with and with out condoms, personally i wish i never done it, i was 14 when i lost my virginity to him, he was my first, i thought it was so sweet...until i found out i was his 5th. so he told me who the others were and well they all have a bad reputation, and now when we have sex all i can think about is if he is thinking about them or if he thinks they are better than me, honestly i get jealous and i dont know why, what can i do to fix my problem?? am i the only one with this problem?? i really need some advice...
mOm<3 posted on 02.04.10 at 10:28PM
June16 u need to put ur foot down. U need to use condoms or u have the risk of getting pregnant or getting an std. There is no difference with or without so dnt let him tell u other wise. And let me jus tel u from experience there are plenty of boys out there who are willing to wait and not pressure you....
mOm<3 posted on 02.04.10 at 10:31PM
MsBroken94 do u know for a fact that he really did sleep wit that many girls cuz alot of guys jus say that to look cool. And if I were u i would get tested jus in case, but if u been together for a while u should be fine. And believe me he ain't thinking bout nothing but u
mOm<3 posted on 02.04.10 at 10:32PM
Oh yeah and for all u girls on here let me jus say.....always use condoms and birth control together because accidents do happen. I got pregnant on the IUD. So jus something to think bout
shortygirl77 posted on 02.05.10 at 10:16PM
i feel stupid asking but what does "pull it out" mean? and what is a female condom?
thanks.
happyandsafe485 posted on 02.06.10 at 07:52PM
I'm 14 and me and my girlfriend had sex for a short while, because it was interupted by some family members that were coming home in the rush to put on the condom i put it on wrong. Luckily, i did not finish...so make sure you have the person you are about to have sex with take his time and PINCH THE TIP
ALYSSIA1996 posted on 02.12.10 at 02:20AM
my ex boyfriend wanted to do it with out one i said no i made him use one but he broke up with me cuz i made him use one
dARR95 posted on 02.21.10 at 03:34PM
me and my boyfriend want to have sex but am ready and so is he but does a condom really prevent from pregnacy? this is my first time how do u even start?
dARR95 posted on 02.21.10 at 04:55PM
am 14 and i want to do it with my bf we've been together for 3 years and i want to do it does a condom work really good? can anyone give me tips??
SiNFUll posted on 02.26.10 at 08:32PM
If you are not planning on getting pregnant, then USE PROTECTION! What some people dont understand is that they think oh i wont use a condom i will pull out before it happenes, but the thing is that they feel it happeing and know when its gonna happen and think they are fine. this might sound weird or whatever you may think but there is something called penatration. ( pre- cum) that comes out before the actually one. and that pre part is what can get you pgranant. it only takes one time. and if your boyfriend cant respect that you want him to wear protection then he is not the right guy for you!
socaligrlie posted on 02.27.10 at 06:11PM
The most important thing to remember about sex is that is should be with someone you love and someone that loves you.
The second most important thing to remember is to always use condoms as your protection.
Pulling out is an ineffective way to prevent pregnancy because a guy has over 1000 sperm in his pre-cum (the small drip that comes out after he gets a hard-on).
Using condoms can prevent pregnancy and STD's if they are used properly.
Remember to always check the expiration date
Make sure the condom is facing the correct way (IT WILL LOOK LIKE A SOMBRERO), if you put it on his penis and it does not roll down, THROW IT AWAY AND GET A NEW CONDOM because the pre-cum (that contains over 1000 sperm) is now on the outter tip of the right side of the condom!
Then you want to remember to pinch the tip so there is room for the cum when he ejaculates.
Roll the condom to the base of his penis and then you are ready to have sex!
It is also important to use a backup method such as birth control in case the condom breaks; don't count on your partner for protection!
You can get FREE birth control AND condoms from planned parenthood, they won't even call your parents!
****Even if you just use birth control, you can still contract STDs like HIV, herpes, gonarrea and syphillis! ALWAYS USE A CONDOM ******
Protect yourself, Practice SAFE SEX!!