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 ‘Savage U’ Florida: Your Weekly (Sex) Life Lesson 

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Dan Savage took on some kinky questions at the University of Central Florida on “Savage U” last night, and with nearly 60,000 students on campus there were plenty to go around. But it wasn’t all sex toys and orgasm-talk, a bi-sexual student named Alex moved Dan so much he offered her a hug! And Dan is not a hugger.

 

+The Deets

Alex has identified as a lesbian for years, and chose to go a college with a big, supportive LGBT community. But recently she has become romantically and sexually interested in guys again and is fearful her gay and lesbian friends will reject her for being bisexual. She has already received some negative responses from friends and is torn up as to why her gay friends can’t be happy for her, regardless of her choice. “We are bullied all the time for who we are and who we want to have sex with,” she said.

+The (Sex)perts weigh in:
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 ‘Savage U’ Chicago: Your Weekly (Sex) Life Lesson 

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Dan Savage was back on his home turf of Chicago for Savage U last night and it was a sex and relationships dish session like you won’t see anywhere else. The story that really moved him (and us) was shared by Maria, a University of Illinois at Chicago student dealing with a herpes diagnosis. Watch her talk to Dan at the 11:30 mark:

 

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 ‘Savage U’ Auburn: Your Weekly (Sex) Life Lesson 

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Dan headed south to Auburn University in Alabama on tonight’s Savage U and it was clear he felt like a fish out of water with all the talk of holding doors, M-R-S degrees and chastity. But one student’s story of striving to live up to his own moral code won Dan over. Watch below at the 17 minute mark:

 

+The Deets

Luke is in a long-distance relationship but is finding it challenging to balance the college lifestyle and staying committed. He and his girlfriend are not having sex and he plans to stay a virgin until he is married, but there are temptations — in the form of hot girls — are everywhere at Auburn.
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 ‘Savage U’ East Carolina: Your Weekly (Sex) Life Lesson 

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On tonight’s episode of “Savage U,” sex columnist Dan Savage stopped by East Carolina University, where the girls complain they far outnumber the guys on campus, but the guys are loving the statistical advantage. Dan coached students through relationship issues like dealing with a girlfriend’s parents and communicating desires to a BF/GF, but Kira’s story definitely caught our attention, and Dan’s:

+The Deets

Kira has been posting ads on Craigslist, advertising for hook ups and allowing people she meets online to come to her apartment.  She is using condoms and birth control, but she often knows very little about the guys she is involved with. Is this booty hunting safe?
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 Savage U Ohio: Your Weekly (Sex) Life Lesson 

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Ohio State University — known for Buckeyes football, raging tailgates and loyal fans — welcomed sex columnist Dan Savage to the party tonight. But college isn’t always all fun and games, as Dan learned when Emily shared her difficult story, watch after the jump:

 

+The Deets

Emily was interested in a friend from class, and accepted an invitation to hang out. He made a forceful move on her and reacted angrily when she said no, even calling her a bitch. The experience has made Emily feel guilty, question herself, her own judgment and other guys.
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 Q&A: Dan Savage Talks Hook Ups and Double Standards 

Famous sex-columnist Dan Savage answers students’ questions on the new MTV series Savage U. What did he learn from the experience? It’s Your Sex Life got answers:

++You’re a world-renowned sex, dating and relationship expert, so you’ve pretty much heard it all.  While traveling to all these college campuses, was there a particularly surprising or unexpected question?

It wasn’t new, I’ve heard it before, but I’m still surprised by how many people — male and female, but more often male — insist they would never date someone they hooked up with. Because, you know, people who hook up… they’re just not relationship material, you know? It never seems to register with the person making this observation — this value judgment — that they themselves are not “relationship material.” By their own definition they’re not! Because they hooked up too.

They know they’re not sleazes, even if they did something sleazy, but they assume that the person they got sleazy with must be a sleaze. Not someone who did something sleazy, but a sleaze. The double standard and magical/tragical thinking here is equal parts sad and hilarious.

++ Why did you want to do this show? Why is talking with young people about sex and all the issues that go along with sex like using protection and getting tested for STDs so important to you?

I wanted to bring the kind of conversation I have with my readers and listeners to television. Sex is fun, it’s a wonderful thing, but there are risks. Control those risks as best you can and then get out there and enjoy yourself while being considerate of the feelings and rights of others. That “do unto others” stuff, you know?

Often what you see on TV about sex—people going for it, having sex without any thought being given to the risk—is in conflict with what you hear about sex on TV. What you hear is, basically, “Don’t have sex unless it’s 100% safe! Responsible people only have risk-free sex!” There is no such thing as risk-free sex, of course. And that message about risk—it’s never okay to take a risk—is undermined by all the risk taking we see people, real and fictional, engage in on television.

A show that acknowledges the risks, talks about them, informs people about them, and then empowers them to make their own choices—their own informed choices, which can include the choice to take a risk—is something new.

Watch Savage U Tuesdays at 11/10c and check back for more from Dan Savage on It’s Your Sex Life.

 Savage U Maryland: Your Weekly (Sex) Life Lesson 

Sex and relationships columnist Dan Savage was at the University of Maryland for the premiere of Savage U tonight and he dug up all kinds of dirt on the dating and hook-up scene. It takes a LOT to shock Dan but his jaw dropped when a student visiting the school’s health center told him this story:

 

++The deets:

The student and his girlfriend Deb admit they are regularly having unprotected sex, without condoms or birth control pills. “When I’m in the mood, I’m not thinking about pregnancy,” he said. Both say they don’t want to have a baby, but just can’t be bothered with birth control or condoms.

++The (SEX)perts weigh in

Where to even begin! This couple is taking a huge gamble EVERY time they have unprotected sex. It’s hard to imagine why they would even go there– risking getting pregnant or contracting a sexually transmitted disease on a regular basis, and they can’t seem to come up with any excuse.  As Dan asked on the show, “Are you insane??”

Dan is completely distressed by this couple’s casual approach to not using protection, with good reason. About 1 in 2 sexually active young people will contract an STD by the age of 25. And a sexually active teen who doesn’t use protection has a 90% chance of becoming pregnant within a year. Those odds ain’t in this couple’s favor!

++The good news

Protecting yourself from STDs and pregnancy is easy if you plan ahead. And life can be a lot less stressful if you just take responsibility up front, instead of having to wonder after the fact.

++What you can do:
If you’re having sex (any kind—oral, anal or vaginal) be proactive and make a plan. There are many different methods of protection out there, so learn more in the What Works/What Doesn’t feature or talk to your doctor about what method works best for you. A few popular methods are:

  •  Condoms (when used consistently and correctly each and every time) are the ONLY method that can help reduce your risk of contracting an STD AND prevent pregnancy. Read up on condoms here.
  • The pill doesn’t provide any protection against STDs but it is 99 percent effective at preventing pregnancy when used correctly.
  • The shot protects against pregnancy for 3 months (which may be helpful for the more forgetful ladies out there) and is 99 percent effective when used correctly. But again, only condoms provide protection from STDs.

If you’re waiting to have sex, take a deep breath, you don’t have to worry about pregnancy just yet. But even if you aren’t having sex, know that some STDs can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact, so consider using a condom if any sexual contact is going on.

For more information on sexual health visit It’s Your Sex Life and enjoy some of our favorite Dan-isms of the night below:

Best hair-cut advice:

“You should style your vulva however it is that you want to style your vulva”

Best SAT-style analogy:

“Women reading Cosmo and then having certain expectations are like guys watching hard-core porn and having certain expectations.” –Dan trying to convince ladies to put down the Cosmo.

Best relationship advice that applies to all areas of life:

“Stay in the game, say optimistic and don’t get bitter”

Best call out:

“That old song, ‘Oh I can’t feel anything with a condom’ is bull$#*!” –Dan putting the myth that condoms take away all sensation to rest.